This blog idea has been ruminating in my head for a while now, but with making arrangements to pack and move our little family from a tiny apartment to a larger rental house, it hasn’t been written… until now.
Today I want to speak to the moms. Doesn’t matter if you’re a new one dealing with sleep deprivation and fussy baby(ies) or one who’s seen her share of stubbed toes, hurt feelings and the growing pains all children go through. I want to share something with you that I hope brings you comfort and peace.
As moms we tend to be the adult of the household who take it upon ourselves to plan meals, grocery shop and maintain the house, among other things that keep us busy from sunup to sundown. As such, we try to find the best deals and value for our hard earned paycheck (or our husbands). Some of us try to maximize our value by clipping coupons and only buying what we need when it’s on sale. We try to get the best value for what we need, but have you ever stopped and considered how much value you bring to your family?
When I look up ‘value’ in the dictionary most of the definitions revolve around mathematical or musical connotations. The last one caught my attention though: “hold dear”. Do you feel like sometimes your family doesn’t see all that you do and seems to take you for granted? Does that alter the way you see yourself and makes you feel undervalued? Does it make you doubt your worth as a person and especially as a mother?
When you’re having a rough day, week, month, season of life try to remember that if you’re a Christ-follower He holds you dear no matter what you’re going through right now. He knows life can be tough, but if sometimes leaning into Him is all you can do to make it through the day, that’s okay. He wants us to rely on Him, in both good times and bad. His grace is sufficient for us no matter the circumstances. You are worth more than all the precious stones in the world to Him.
Again I go to the dictionary for the definition of ‘worth’ and find some interesting phrases… (emphasis added)
- excellence of character or quality as commanding esteem: women of worth.
- usefulness or importance, as to the world, to a person, or for a purpose: Your worth to the world is inestimable.
- value, as in money.
- a quantity of something of a specified value: ten cents’ worth of candy.
- wealth; riches; property or possessions: net worth.
As a mother, one of the most important, if not the most important job you have, is to be just that; a mother. You are worth more than rubies (and rubies are expensive). So before you devalue yourself or think you’re not worth anything, reread those definitions and realize that you’re doing a great thing. Motherhood isn’t easy. I’m not even a year into it and I’m gaining more and more respect for those moms who handle multiple children, either of their own or in a child-care scenario. Those who are parenting a child with disabilities, or as a single parent… wow, you are amazing. Hands down amazing.
My point in all of this talk of value and worth is to share that God knows our value and worth. He considers us more precious than rubies, diamonds, gold or stock options with the latest tech start-up. 😉 Yet, all too often we use the worlds definitions of value and worth with disastrous results. We feel like we have to do it all; homemade organically grown foods that is locally sourced for all our meals, a spotless home every day of the week, clean laundry folded and put away after each load… The list goes on, but we have to stop and realize that we can’t do it all.
We are all super Moms, but no one can be The Super Mom unless they’ve a well orchestrated team of helpers working behind the scenes helping them get it all done. It’s just not realistic. We need to understand that some days even the best laid plans can go awry and instead of that organically grown, locally sourced food being dinner, peanut butter and jelly sandwiches on wheat bread will have to do.
I’m sure you’ve heard or even read yourselves the chapter in Proverbs about the capable woman; (go ahead and roll your eyes and groan) but humor me and read it again with the idea that God values you more than anyone else in the world does and knows our worth even if we don’t believe it ourselves.
“(…) She is far more precious than jewels. The heart of her husband trusts in her, and he will not lack anything good. (…) She rises while it is still night and provides food for her household (…) She draws on her strength and reveals that her arms are strong.”
Proverbs 31: 10-11, 15 &17 [HCSB]
God knows mothering is hard. Being a Godly mother in this crazy seemingly upside down world can seem downright impossible sometimes, but He is always there with us. Even when it seems like all your plans and mile-long to-do list aren’t ever going to be completed, He is there to offer us comfort and rest as well as to gently remind us of our value and worth in His heart & eternal kingdom.
“Charm is deceptive and beauty is fleeting, but a woman who fears the Lord will be praised. Give her the reward of her labor, and let her works praise her at the city gates.”
Proverbs 31:30-31 [HCSB]